My dad is a complete sports fanatic. He has no time to listen to wonderful speakers like Wayne Dyer or Harv Ecker or Jack Canfield. I’ve tried to share them with him. He always responded the same way with each attempt, “This is just some guy talking. This isn’t even interesting or entertaining.” For many years I kept trying to find a speaker he could relate to and listen to for inspiration. I did this because when I was a kid, my dad worked seemingly endless hours and, for a few years, during his long commute to work, he listened to tapes of this guy named Bob Moawad. He would rave about this man’s wisdom and try to impart some of his most inspired words upon us. Then the year came that he had to get a new car, and cars came with stereos that only had CD players in them. Over time, I believe my dad lost his precious Bob Moawad tapes with no machine to play them in. And his striving for better understanding on how to be a better father, provider, husband, human, sort of plateaued as most who don’t work on themselves will do. These years when my dad was immersed in Bob Moawad teachings were some of the easiest and best years of my childhood. For most of my formative years, he was often overly reactionary, and hot tempered. He was a great provider, but the work he did in this window of self improvement was immensely different and so much the better for the whole family.
For years I tried to find Bob Mowat, or Meauxwat or however you would spell it, to no avail. Somehow, maybe it’s just that it finally became available on the internet, I was able to find the spelling of his name in Google, and this is the one video of my father’s favorite and only spiritual/growth teacher I could find. I shared it with my parents in email today, and I thought I would put it out on my blog for anyone who might be drawn to it. Note that on my computer the first minute or so seemed to have no audio, but if you wait a little, it kicks in.
This is my new favorite Abraham audio. It is/was exactly what I needed when I found it.
Sometimes I get asked to review books, and although I don’t take up the opportunity very often, at first glance I really liked the subject matter of a book called An UnSpoken Compromise: A Spiritual Guide for LGBT People of Faith written by: Rizi Xavier Timane, PhD, ASW. As the subtitle would reveal, the audience for this book is fairly limited, targeting mostly LGBT or lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender people who happen to come from Christian backgrounds, and desire a religious perspective of support for who they are. When I chose to read the book, I was not aware of the subtitle. I would have waved this book off as something not for me, mostly due to the religious point of view. Rizi Timane is deeply passionate about his faith, and desires to extend that passion to others who may be confused about their place in the world due to many misguided religious teachings about “appropriate gender roles” in society.
None of that matters to me as the reader. What I was really interested in was finding out about the author, a female to male transgendered individual, and others in similar situations. I wanted insight into the life and mind of a person with a gender identity that his or her physical anatomy totally opposed. I was also very interested in what his predicament was like while living in a place I have no knowledge of, Nigeria. Instead, Timane took for granted that his audience would all be suffering members of the LGBT community, mainly transgender and Christian. So I learned about his personal turmoil, but not about what gender dysphoria actually means from an insider’s perspective. I did get a sliver, in one passage where the author briefly glossed over the physical anomaly known as intersex, but the main crux of the text dealt with overcoming religious discrimination. So I didn’t get what I was looking for, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy the read.
I can see how An Unspoken Compromise could be a very empowering text for those who have suffered at the hands of family, friends and religious communities who are not accepting of their LGBT identity. Timane offers an educated analysis of scriptural verses that speak of homosexuality and condemnation, and argues that most of these examples are misunderstood because they are often taken out of context to support bigotry against LGBT people in contemporary times. It is written for a very select audience, but nonetheless, the words Timane offers to this audience are soothing and reassuring. I hope that anyone who needs such condolences reads An Unspoken Compromise and finds peace in Timane’s words.